No man's woman and men without women are incomplete, half-sphere, so that the two hemispheres body "combined"HappyRoll forward do? It must learn the art of marital relationships.
Mutual appreciation
Husband and wife's Road, a thousand words, it seems that can be summarized into two principles: "EffortsSo that they have been to appreciate each other "; First:" hard to appreciate each other. "LoveThe real charm is found in Xiang Yue. Appreciating art is all flowers, love is a fruit. For their loved ones, do not shy to express your love, do not mean your praise. If you frequently in the appropriate forum, with the appropriate facial expressions, tell each other: "I love you", words one must be a mighty force foot. Appreciate the other side is a recognition, affirmation and encouragement, people will inevitably produce aMeetA sense of the so-called knowledge of the most significant thing sure, recognition, praise and appreciation is the appreciation of the psychological needs of both sides, but also a good marital relationship at one of the secrets.
StorageFeelings
EveryoneMindDepths, there will be aEmotionalBank account. If you save often emotional account of love and understanding, the more money accounts, extractHappinessAnd joy the more, you can also extract theSmile, Gentle encouragement, comfort, etc. of interest. Even if occasionally a result of selfishness or lack of caring and allocate funds, and you do not regard to be overdrawn. If the account very little money, each of the conflict will expand its severity. WhenTrustAnd appreciation of the reserve into a state of indebtedness, and if we continue to advance, then, emotional, orMarriageWill be pushed into the edge of destruction.LifeComplex, we have may occasionally out of control,HurtThe spouse. Emotional bank account to avoid overdrafts of the most effective way is: normal lot of deposits, to say the words of gratitude to appreciate, more caring thing.
Personal independence
Gibran In the theory of marriage, said: "In the unity of being, there must be space." Although the strings vibrate in the same tone, but they are all separate each string, so in order to play a wonderful music. Marriage is a one -Freedom, One to one of democracy. Do not stubbornly insist that "You are my", so it will make their love nest into each other's prisoners prisons, the people inside all likelihood want to escape, only to see if he (she) has no guts to just. An old French song sings: "Love is the Sons of Liberty, from the rule, not after." If you love us hope that the "growth", we must first make sure it has been careful to nurture and unwavering care. Not to change their own, not to try to change the other, but should each be adjusted to a moderate their own space, it is necessary to spend the, but also to let each other alone. The soil in marriage, so that twoPersonalityTreeFree GrowthNaturally, you can harvest the fruits of happiness.
Respect for each other
"Bible" says: "To other people to you, you have to how to treat other people", in order to make your marriage strong, the most important one is to learn to respect, learn to respect each other, to get each other's respect, not only to respect each other, more critical Aiwujiwu, respect each other'sParentsBrotherSisterAs well as each other's friends and family. If you despise each other's family, even more families will be pushed to the other side the antithesis of their own, this approach is very foolish to do so would land them in isolated position, the stability of your marriage will be the fatal wound. MoneyAnd love:FamilyThe foundation has two, one reads: money, a saying: love, are indispensable. Popular something: There was love there is also bread, refined say something: the economic base determines the superstructure.LeaveMoney, or at least will also affect the love, which no one can recognize the. However, although the money is a good thing and bad servants. FamilyLife10000 is not in the money too seriously, if you are on the money Maozuliaojin constant, daily, with a total of "planned economy" control each other, making the other side there is no point, "stimulate the economy" and autonomy, then bound to extremes meet, the person may be there One day you will not implement such a "policy" and slip of the peace also. If the marriage is not the love nest of "the bird", this time,Miss youBecause of the absence of the other breed, you might really aware of: the money, after all, is dead, people are living, and only talent is the emotional pillar of buildings.
Society for
Most people love as "loved" instead of "love," I just want to make their own how to becomeLovely, Rather than take the initiative to learn how to love each other, and how to take care of each other's spiritual needs. True love is dedicating wholeheartedly "I give" rather than "I want", based on their ownVitalityTo stimulate each other's vitality. Happier to give than receive, not a sense of deprivation, as expressed in the given act of self-existence of life. Love should be a pure thing, not mixed with any conditions and utilitarian. Love is a shared rather than obsession, love means care,DutyAnd respect for knowledge. Achieve "You have me I have you" is the marriage of the top grade.
Mutual love
Both men and women, have both been hurt and the pain two needs. Is best not to think that you are experiencing a pain just do not want to be pure painFatherType a man or simplyMotherType of woman, husband and wife should be like a pair of chopsticks, life sour, sweet, bitter, spicy, salty taste together. He (her) work, and you can give him Duanshang Yi cup cool white open; you lying asleep on the sofa, and he (she) can be gently covered with a quilt for you ... ... may all be a small, insignificant, but Only this little love to the long years, bit by bit its way into the Xin Wo, the melting in the blood can be considerable period of time and ground a long time.
Learn to be tolerant
The highest state of fashion is sexy, love the highest state is tolerance. The normal functioning of marriage implies that husband and wife is not only of mutual accommodation, but also means thatIdeal与RealityMutual compromise. Home is the place to intercede, not unreasonable where no rational sentient. A philosopher, said: "Marriage before you face up to your eyes, marriage is necessary to shut one eye." This sentence Qi reasonable, is not it? A person can not expect perfect, today's reason why you would go toLikeA person, then this person must be a point in personality attracts you, that you're attracted to.
If you love a person, we would never be tolerant of all, he, in turn, if you are long-lasting tolerance to a person, then you must be very in love with him (her). Tolerance, it can not only broaden the scope of communication, but also continue to expand their comfort zone.
Learn to "understand"
Between husband and wife should be mutual "understanding" each other, so-called "understanding" is this: When youFrustrationWhen he (she) does not say you have a prejudicial to the dignity of words; when you get emotional, he (she) pours common sense guide to you; when youIn a bad moodWhen he (she) never, and you have a general insight; if you Kaiyan him (her) first laugh, if youTroubleHe (she) first, worry about, he (she) will tell you the joy, but he (she) is sad but do not light is intended to reveal to you; even if you are separated by thousands of miles, he (she) is also confident that you. To understand we need is to understand we need is a thoughtful, is needed Love。
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